Looking again at Proverbs 18, it is a critical verse. It is a verse that you constantly need to be reminding yourself about.
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat of its fruit.” Proverbs 18:21 NASB
Death and life will come to you based on the words that come out of your mouth. The words of your mouth will tell me what is in your heart.
Several years ago, my son and I were traveling on Christmas Eve, and we hit a patch of black ice. Our car went spinning out of control, and we were T-boned. It was a terrible, terrible accident. Afterward, we were sitting in the car, waiting for the police and ambulance to come. We were stuck inside our vehicle. My son said to me; he was eight at the time, “Dad, when that happened, you didn’t swear, you called on the name of Jesus.” I said, “you’re right.” I then explained, “Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.” What do you speak in crisis time? It was not God’s desire or His will for us to have that accident, but my son was able to see what is in his father’s heart. Let me ask you, out of the abundance of your heart, what would you speak?
Here is what you need to understand your words, every word you speak is an invitation, did you know that? It is either an invitation to angels to perform God’s Word, an invitation to God to honor His Word, or an invitation to the devil to attack you. Look again at Proverbs 18:20, saying,
“with the fruit of a man’s mouth; his stomach will be satisfied; He will be satisfied with the product of his lips.” Proverbs 18:20 NASB
You are going to eat what you speak. Husbands, what are you saying over your wife? I love my wife; she never fails, never, never, never. She doesn’t believe me when I say that, but 1 Corinthians 13 says love never fails, and I love my wife. You will never hear me speak an ill word over her. Why? Because love never fails. There are times we have truthful conversations, but I do it in love.
Don’t attack your wife. Go to her and say, baby, we need to talk and then do it in love. It doesn’t matter if my wife has an outfit on that I wouldn’t particularly care for or a hairstyle that I wouldn’t have picked, but because it is on her, I love it. C’mon men, what are you speaking over your wife? You are going to live with her for the rest of your life and all of eternity! So, are you going to speak negativity over her? Women, are you going to speak things over your man that are bad when you are going to spend eternity with him?
“The way of an eagle in the sky, the way of a serpent on a rock, the way of a ship in the middle of the sea, and the way of a man with a maid.” Proverbs 30:19 NASB
God wants you to understand why you do things. Why you say the things that you say. God wants you to understand why things matter to you. He says there in Proverbs, understand the way, understand how things work. When you walk over and flip the light switch, you don’t say, ‘man I’m going to use my faith and hope the electricity comes on.’ No, you expect the light to come on. Just like in Proverbs, he wants you to figure it out, like the rudder on the ship in the middle of the sea, or a man with his wife.
“I call heaven and earth to witness against you today, that I have set before you, life and death, the blessing and the curse. So, choose life in order that you may live, you and your descendants.” Deuteronomy 30:19 NASB
God says, choose life. How do you choose life? Your words. You can talk about your own life to death. You can talk your wife to death, you can talk your children to death, and you can talk about your marriage to death. I can’t believe people who have children and speak crap over them or people that get married and then speak crap over their wife or their husband. Same with work, what are you speaking over your employees? Understand, when your children get to the age of accountability, you can’t control the decisions that they make. God exonerates you from responsibility, you can pray for them, but everything with them now becomes a personal choice.